I hate when I hear people say that they don’t care what other people think about them.
“Lies we tell ourselves.”
We all care to some degree what others think about us. We do! And it’s okay. It’s human nature–and we are human, right? We have feelings and emotions. We feel joy, excitement, love and appreciation when we receive compliments, love, congratulations, recognition, etc. We feel hurt, anger, sadness, confusion, fear, and conflict when people reject, speak down to, discredit, and belittle us.
We are emotional beings. God made us that way. So it’s okay to feel emotions. What matters most is what we do with those feelings and the value we give that emotion.
For the longest, I told myself I didn’t care what others thought. I’d fuel myself with thoughts like… “I have lots of friends. I’m a good person. I have a big personality. I’m friendly. And I don’t care what people think about me.”
“Lies we tell ourselves.”
Finally I came to realize–I do care. I do! And it was actually my decision to work in this online space that made me realize it.
You see, I thought I was doing great. I was posting and sharing. My audience was growing. However, I discovered that I wasn’t making intimate connections with people. And, thus, it was revealed to me that I was only doing superficial sharing. My social media didn’t have a real person connected to it. I had to start sharing more of me—authentically and transparently.
I froze. I couldn’t do it. I wouldn’t do it. I wanted to. In fact, I had a plan to do it. But when it came time to share, or post, or livestream, I’d instead work on some more behind the scenes stuff and postpone the “real” work. I realized I was afraid of rejection. I was afraid of being judged. I was afraid of no one caring; no one finding value.
I was afraid; because I cared about what others thought.
Before I could move forward, I had to deal with that—on a soul level (you know I love getting deep.) And the message that finally got me to my breakthrough was this:
“Not everyone will like you. They’re not supposed to. Some people will reject you for the color of your skin, the sound of your voice, the way you move your hands—just for being you. But those people were never meant for you. The people who are meant for you—the people you are meant to connect with and serve, they will find you. They will listen. They will care; because they are meant for you. And those are the people who matter.”
I found peace in that message. So I show up every day–for myself and the people that matter.
Message to you: Everyone won’t like you. And, deep down, it does not matter. Because they aren’t supposed to. It may bother you, but you control the value that you give those emotions. Focus on the fact that some people ‘will’ know/like/trust you. And those are the ones that really matter….
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